To keep the fire of love blazing in a relationship is not a technique but a way of life that emanates from you to your partner.
The ten steps theory works to an extent, but much higher is cultivating a way of thinking that becomes part of your ethos and that starts to build up your relationship. You can never be fulfilled in a relationship until you find fulfillment in yourself.
A wholesome relationship is one in which you feel cherished, trusted, and respected. Here are a few focuses that do help and actually work
Value yourself
The word used often is love yourself, which is also right because if you do not place a little crown on your head, negativity will keep pouring out of you and that is akin to killing your ethos in some way.
Polarity
Polarity is the attraction between opposite energies. Healthy relationships need to have a partner with masculine energy and one with feminine energy.
To gain a lasting passion with your partner, you need to discover your polarity and your design and reconnect with yourself and your partner today.
Feminine energy is free and fluid, Feminine energy is all of the nurturing traits it takes to connect to human beings in a meaningful and fulfilling way. Feminine energy is fluid and free, compassionate, kind, empathetic, patient, and emotional, embracing intuition and creativity. The feminine is oriented towards receiving and allowing things to happen
Masculine energy is characterized by doing and achieving and is generated by logic and reason. When these energies are balanced, couples experience a greater sense of harmony and satisfaction in their relationship.
Communication
Communication is the key they say. It is not really about talking about the weather or getting potatoes from the vegetable vendor but a deeper one where you listen and speak, establishing an emotional connection. Communication should not be just for meeting your needs, but also for fulfilling your partner’s needs, and this calls for empathetic listening.
Honesty
Honesty builds trust and also reveals hearts in such a depth and both partners began to build communication lines accordingly. It allows both to be free with who they are and find relief. However, there is a fear that honesty can also cause their partner to use situations against them. This could happen depending on the nature of their partner, but on the whole, honesty opens greater doors to communication because you feel the person is being real with you.
Due to honesty, vulnerability inherently follows and if you are unable to trust your partner to support you no matter what, you’re not in a healthy relationship.
Intimacy
Intimacy is emotional nearness and trust and would involve touch, though it does not always mean sex and this is what separates romance from a platonic friendship. It could mean holding hands, walking together in the sunshine and the rain, and sharing things including deep thoughts.
Total Commitment.
True powerful love’s essence is total commitment. All incredible love affairs share one thing: they are the result of total commitment and it can be tough but it pays the price. Commitment is just a decision to be faithful, and it is a head decision rather than a heart decision. What one decides will determine the outcome, and the emotions will follow.
Commitment brings a lot of balance and strength to both partners and builds the walls of security keeping the relationship wholesome.
Some Red Flags in a Relationship
Constant Criticism
There’s a difference between honesty and criticism. When your partner is being honest, you’ll still feel respected and valued because their feedback is constructive. Constant criticism is often about small things, like your clothes or favorite pastimes, and makes you feel belittled.
Control
If your partner forces you to change your appearance, quit activities you love, or stop seeing friends or family, those are big red flags. Making you share every thought or detail of your day or always needing to be with you are more subtle signs of controlling behavior that can kill a relationship. It is like overwatering a plant.
Abuse
Emotional and physical abuse can destroy a relationship, and once that happens, it is very hard to come back to the same level of love. Red flags such as physical or emotional abuse, are always signs that you must leave the relationship immediately.
Distance
Nourishing relationships are both emotionally and physically intimate. If you or your partner is no longer interested in intimacy or one of you is holding back your thoughts and feelings, it’s time to renew the love.
Constant Argument
Sometimes it’s best to defuse arguments over petty topics and constant argument over the same issues without change means something is lacking in communication skills. This brings out constant stress in the relationship and it is best to put an end to arguments.
Once these patterns have been established between you and your partner, a captivating, passionate, and wholesome relationship will follow and last forever.