You may lose a loved one through death. Sorrow can be overpowering and the process is hard. However, if one understands how to go through it, they will arrive at great healing and comfort.
Initially, your emotions are in shock when you lost a loved one. There is the time of cremation, burial, and perhaps most people are numb through that painful process because the natural defenses of the body numb one in shock, and slowly after it is all over, realization strikes that one has to go through life without that person around and that is the hardest. Seeing an empty bed or empty chair hits hard and it starts to hurt, knowing you can never hear their voice again or see them pains the soul. Your heart starts to palpate fast, you cry uncontrollably or even faint with grief.
You may lose interest in work or the normal things you enjoy and you may start to shut out people. It may take months or even years to get over this grief for some.
This is How to Cope with Grief:
Know That They are Happy Where they Are: Most people on Earth believe in an afterlife. There are NDE (near-death experiences) scientific studies that have shown that people who died briefly and came back went to a wonderful place, met a Being of Light, and seen a place they describe as heaven, while others have seen a place they describe as hell.
To let yourself into the realization that they are in this place which is far richer in experience and atmosphere, you get tremendous healing and know that you will meet them again one day, that this is just another change.
It would be helpful to read literature about NDEs, for this is a pathway to comfort even in scientific realization that there is something more than just life on Earth and that each human was born with a higher purpose to ultimately connect to their Creator.
As You Grieve, Accept It and Do not Suppress It: Allow yourself to grieve, accept your feelings, cry, talk aloud to God, express your pain, because if you try to crush your emotions, they will keep resurfacing and haunting you over and over again. If you crush them, they will return as nightmares. Do not get critical of your emotions and allow them to surface freely
Realize that Grief Has Its Season and Purpose: Let deep realization soak inside that grief has a purpose and this too will pass. Think of it as a storm that abates, and after the storm, a beautiful rainbow will comfort you in its hues. When you assess grief as a season, there is hope and a sense developed inside you that the pain will not be forever. You get greater inner strength this way.
Use Relaxation and Nature to Heal You: Breathing techniques are healing and work in calming one down. Breathe in deeply, hold, breathe out, hold, and breathe in again. You can imagine the pain and negative thoughts going out as you exhale, and imagine breathing in healing, peace, and joy. You can breathe from the chest, the diaphragm, or the belly.
One relaxation technique is systematic muscle relaxation. This is a good technique for when you’re feeling angry or stressed. Lie on your back and tense the muscles of your toes. Hold them tense for several seconds, and then release them completely. Next, tighten the muscles of your feet, hold, and release. Continue upward until you reach your head, tightening, holding, and releasing.
Fight Obsessive Thoughts: You may find your thoughts racing obsessively about the loss of your loved ones reaching to a panic disorder. Thought stopping is a powerful technique you can use to fight obsessive thinking. When your thoughts begin to circle wildly and you find yourself unable to control your thinking, imagine a stop sign. If the image of a stop sign doesn’t work, you can think the word “STOP,” or even say it out loud. You may have to practice thought-stopping for a while before it successfully ends the obsessive thoughts. When you get the hang of it, it can be very effective.
Talk about the Loss: Never suppress your feelings, while maintaining a balance about obsessiveness. and never stop grieving when they talk of their loss. Reach out to trusted friends or family and talk about your pain. Remember the good times, talk about your times with the loved ones.
Honor Their Memory, Do Something in Their Name: Set up a monument for them, a spot of remembrance. Do something in their name. Donate to charity, you may also start a community project in honor of their memory, write a poem for them or an article, have someone do a painting of them or if you are an artist, pain it, name someone in your family after them, plant a tree for them, and allow their memory to live on.
Do Something Creative: Initially, when one is grieving, they cannot do anything let alone eating. It will take time to come to a place of building up your life again, but when it happens, do something creative. Creativity releases new energy because while one is building something new, it transforms into powerful positive energy. Paint, draw, write a journal, sing, play an instrument, do gardening, make something new, and new energy will heal you.
Travel to a Scenic Location if Possible: This too will not be immediate, but going to a new location helps in healing. The freshness of the new place takes away familiarity so you are more open in wonder to what nature has to offer you. Because nature is healing and the soul connects to the energies of nature in a fresh way and gets renewed healing. Just walking through a wooded forest will release strength to you, climbing up a hill exhalation, walking on a beach freshness and wonders. All this brings pure healing to the soul
Prayers: Nothing is more powerful than prayers because as you pray, the Creator’s energy and strength is released to you. You are in the highest place and get tremendous peace and strength for your circumstances.
. Never forget to take good care of yourself. You are a precious person.
Autumn leaves gently fall
Before that final closure
The air seems so final
Cold, thick, and silent
Numbing pain grips us
While sweet sleep flies away
Long nights we keep wondering
Where our loved one went
We walk down
Lonely long whistling corridors
Creaking doors, loud echoes
And sharp memories
Regretting things we said
Or should not have said
Wishing we have poured out
More love instead
Wishing we had done more
And talked more
But our precious loved ones
They know, they know
Knowledge in Heaven
Increases with a Holy glow
They know we love them
As love crosses all realms
All is forgiven
As they live in the Land of Glory
Rejoicing, they want us
To go on and be happy